#70: Three rules to choose your couple without committing a mistake.

There will come a day, dear friend, long before you are wise and mature, when you will choose a partner for the rest of your life. Since that day you will make a decision without being well prepared, I want to share with you three rules for choosing a partner without making a mistake.

Rule #1.

Choose a healthy person of the opposite sex with whom you can have a family. Beyond her physical appearance or social position, pay attention to her health and habits, because raising a family requires a lot of teamwork and there are few opportunities to rest.

Rule #2.

Even if you're really in love, get advice from your parents. It is important to know what your parents think of your partner before entering into a commitment, not only because you marry a person, but you're going to live together with her family and she in turn will live together with your whole family too. Keep in mind that the grandparents and uncles can be a great support for the new family being formed. So try to choose your in-laws well.

Rule #3.

Choose a person who loves God above all things. This is the most important rule. If your partner has this quality you are going to be benefited in the following ways:

• the relationship will be long and fruitful
• your house will be real home
• your children will grow with an upright conscience
• your estate will increase
• the couple's love will grow year by year

To enrich the subject we should make a reflection from a passage in the Bible. The reflection of today is based on a passage from the book of Judges that recounts the marriage of Samson. The passage is found in the book of Judges chapter 14, numbers 1 to 11. If you intend to read the passage I recommend praying before to the Holy Spirit to ask for His light.

Points for reflection.

1. It's great to have communication with your parents, but it is better to listen to them with humility and follow good advice to avoid much needless suffering.
2. We must reflect on the things that happen during the day and accept them willingly. Over time we learn to see God's hand in all events and we can discover God's will. The opposite attitude is to grumble about everything that happens in your life and not see the benefit that the experience may have for your soul.
3. If you abandon Christ´s way you encounter the dead. In the reading, death is represented by the corpse of the lion, which was overcomed by the power of God infused to Samson. Do not waste time browsing among the spiritually dead because they can hurt you.
4. The honeycomb and the bees described in the reading represent something sweet and dangerous. It may be an analogy of the sweetness of the pleasures that will never truly satisfy you. Stay away from the honey that steals the life of grace. Only God can fully satisfy you because we were created by Him and for Him, the sweetness of God is greater and it remains.

Let us ask Our Lady, Queen of Heaven, to teach us to sanctify ourselves through our marriage together with our partner.

Thank you for making this reflection with me. This is a place where you are appreciated and loved in Jesus Christ. You are the reason for my blog. May God bless you.

I'd love to know what this reflection meant to you. Do not go without leaving your comments, your purposes, whatever you want.